1 Corinthians 13:1-13

¹ If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. ² And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. ³ If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.

⁴ Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant ⁵ or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; ⁶ it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

⁸ Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. ⁹ For we know in part and we prophesy in part, ¹⁰ but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. ¹¹ When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways. ¹² For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known. ¹³ So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

In the name of Jesus. Amen.

We use the word ‘love’ to describe our attitude towards all sorts of things. You will say that you love your spouse, kids, and parents, but you also might also say that you love your dog, watching a TV show, and taking naps. For example, I love my wife, Sarah; I love my mom; and I love eating my mom’s lasagna. But those loves are not all the same, and they shouldn’t be.

In Greek, there are four different words for love. I would highly recommend a book by C. S. Lewis called The Four Loves which helps to distinguish between these four kinds of love. Today, I’ll just briefly describe each of them. And if you’re interested in learning more, read Lewis.

The first Greek word for love is storge. Probably the best English word we have for this is ‘affection.’ Storge is the most basic kind of love, but just because it is basic, don’t think that it is unimportant. Storge is the enjoyment of someone or something. Storge is the love you have for your fish and your car. Lewis rightly says that storge is the jacket that clothes the other loves.

The second Greek word for love is phileo. This is the love that is present in friendship. Phileo binds two people together but in a way that is outside of each of them. It has a focus on a common goal or interest that both individuals share. You can have storge for your friend and enjoy him/her, and you can share phileo with that friend as well as you two pursue that common goal or interest.

The third Greek word for love is eros which is romantic love between a husband and wife. Unlike phileo,which is fueled by common interests or goals that are outside of the individuals, eros is directed at the other person. Eros can truthfully say, “It’s better to be miserable with him/her than happy without him/her.”

The fourth Greek word for love is agape. Agape is the highest and most unselfish love, and it is the only love that is described here in our text. Agape loves the unlovable, the undeserving, and even the ugly. Agapegives everything and asks for nothing in return. First and foremost, agape is the love that God has for us in Christ. John 3:16 says that God loved (He agaped) the world that He gave Jesus, His only begotten Son to suffer and die for us sinners and enemies of God. Agape, this sacrificial love, is also the love that we Christians are to have toward others. 1 John 4:7-8 says, “Beloved (lit. ‘you agaped ones’), let us agape one another, for agape is from God and whoever agapes has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not agape does not know God because God is agape.”

Now, I wanted to walk through those different types of love because they are good distinctions to keep in mind. With the first three loves (storge, phileo, and eros), there can be certain levels or temperatures of those loves. Think of the thermometer. You can have storge, or affection, for drinking cold water from a garden hose on a hot day, but you might have a stronger storge for drinking Mountain Dew. You might have phileo, or friendly love, with Sally, but a stronger phileo with Tiffany. Even in marriage, eros, that romantic love, will grow stronger as years pass. One of the problems in our culture today is that too often people will confuse strong affection (storge), or a high degree of friendship (phileo), or even sacrificial love (agape) – they’ll confuse those with romantic love (eros). Keeping them straight can help curb sins that are so rampant in our culture.

One final word about the four loves. Scripture is clear that, except for your husband (if you are a woman) or your wife (if you are a man), you must not have eros for others. It is also true that there are people that you can’t have affection (storge) or friendship (phileo) toward. Something as simple as distance or just a dislike can prevent those loves. But you can, and should, practice agape toward all – first for God then others, the good and bad, the old and the young, those close to you and far from you.

Now, with all that in mind, I’d like to turn to the text and consider the phrase, “love (agape) bears all things.” I’ve preached on this before, but it is good to cover again and let it sink in a bit further. What does it mean that love bears all things? Galatians 6:2 helps us understand this; it says, “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” And that law of Christ is to love, to agape, your neighbor as yourself (Mt. 22:39).

What does this look like? Maybe you have had a conversation with someone who tells you about all sorts of difficulties in their life, and you leave that conversation feeling tired – not necessarily physically, but emotionally and spiritually. You feel tired because you are sharing that person’s burdens. This is an act of agape love that has cost you something and has truly helped the other person. Hopefully, you have experienced the relief of unburdening yourself like that. You just tell a person all the things that are difficult or stressful for you. After you unload all of that, you feel better about the situation even though nothing has changed. You’ve simply shared your burden.

Dear saints, with everything going on in the world, this is a very real, tangible way to sacrificially love others with agape. Too often, we try to get out of showing agape because we are unwilling to bear one another’s burdens. This is unloving and is, in fact, sinful. I can think of three tricks we commonly use to avoid bearing the burdens of others, but I am sure there are more.

The first trick is to simply avoid being around people. We don’t let people have access to us. We elude certain people who are always talking about their problems, and we avoid meaningful interactions. We fill our schedules so full that we are always running from one thing to the next. Even though you may be around people every waking moment, there is no time or occasion for others to have a real conversation with you. Stop that, and slow down.

The second trick is, when other people start to tell us their troubles, we may listen for a bit, but then we start telling them about our troubles. It almost turns into a contest to see who has the most stress. All this does is simply build a wall between us and their problems. I’ll talk about myself and my problems so I don’t have to deal with you and your problems.

The third trick is the most dangerous because we think it is pious. We give advice. We listen for a bit, and then we say, “Have you considered doing this?” Now, our advice might be really good. But don’t miss the point, it deflects their burden from us back on to them. It can leave the person more deflated and more burdened, and we leave the conversation thinking we’ve done something good and loving. But we aren’t bearing their burden. Remember: if that person wanted your advice… they would’ve asked for it.

Avoidance, barriers, and advice – all tricks we use to avoid bearing another’s burdens.

Consider our Gospel lesson (Lk. 18:31-43) where we saw Jesus’ agape in action when He encountered blind Bartimeaus (Mk. 10:46). Bartimaeus cries out to Jesus, “Have mercy on me!” Jesus pauses on His trek to Jerusalem, where He is going to save the whole world. He doesn’t avoid Bartimeaus; Jesus stops and listens asking him, “What do you want Me to do for you?” Bartimeaus says that he wants to receive his sight. And Jesus doesn’t start talking about Himself and the problems He is about to face in the crucifixion. And Jesus doesn’t give advice – and if anyone is in a position to give advice it’s Jesus. Jesus simply says, “Receive your sight, your faith has made you well.”

Now, at this point, consider the problems of people who are unloading their burdens on you – high blood pressure, cancer, stuff at work, depression, family problems. Unlike Jesus, we can’t simply say the word and make things better. But like Jesus we can recognize and acknowledge the brokenness in people’s lives and say, “I’m so sorry you’re going through this.” We can listen to them and pray for them, then and there. Pray for them and say, “May Jesus bless you.”

Jesus not only healed Bartimaeus’ blindness, Jesus bears his burden completely. Again, Jesus was on His way to Jerusalem where He would bear all mankind’s burdens, all your sins and iniquities. He would suffer all the consequences of sin in this world as He hung in darkness on the cross. And He carried all those burdens, every last one of them, to the grave. But Jesus wouldn’t stay there. Because of that fact, we know that whatever we suffer in this world is temporary. So whatever burdens you bear – whether they are yours or others’ – they will disappear when our Lord returns because He has taken them.

You see, the love of Jesus has already and continues to bear all things – all your sins, all your iniquities, all your transgressions, all your griefs, all your cares, all your sorrows. And when this passage says that love never ends, know what that means for you. Christ’s love for you never ends. His love embraces you and will change your mortal body into a resurrected body.

Dear saints, agape one another, but also know that in this life, your love will fall short. But God’s love for you in Christ is perfect, complete, and whole. And the day will come when you will also love perfectly. Your impatience, your cruelty, anger, pride, envy, and bitterness will disappear from your heart. What you now see in a mirror dimly will become crystal clear. God’s pure love will flow through you forever.

That’s why love is greater than faith and hope. Faith will cease because it will be replaced by sight. Hope will no longer be needed because it will be exchanged with experience. Love is the greatest because it never ends. God’s steadfast love for you in Christ never ceases. His mercies never come to an end. They are new each and every morning. Now, and unto eternity. And this love of Christ becomes our focus for the next six weeks as we turn to Lent. Amen.

The peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Amen.