Mark 10:2-16
2 And Pharisees came up and in order to test him asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” 3 He answered them, “What did Moses command you?” 4 They said, “Moses allowed a man to write a certificate of divorce and to send her away.” 5 And Jesus said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart he wrote you this commandment. 6 But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ 7 ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, 8 and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. 9 What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
10 And in the house the disciples asked him again about this matter. 11 And he said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, 12 and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
13 And they were bringing children to him that he might touch them, and the disciples rebuked them. 14 But when Jesus saw it, he was indignant and said to them, “Let the children come to me; do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of God. 15 Truly, I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child shall not enter it.” 16 And he took them in his arms and blessed them, laying his hands on them.
Grace, mercy, and peace to you from God our Father and from our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Amen.
[Married couples, I want you to be touching each other during this sermon. Hold hands, have your arm around your spouse’s shoulder, or place a hand on their leg. I’ll trust you to keep it rated “G.” I know your kids might make it impossible to do this through the whole sermon, but do your best. Couples, I want you to digest this sermon together. If you get distracted by your kids through the sermon, listen to it again tonight. So you know, I will forgo my normal Sunday night routine and do this with my wife tonight. God bless you and your marriage. To you who are not married, listen as well. God has some important things to say to you as you consider marriage in the future.]
In the name of Jesus. Amen.
This Gospel text is not primarily about marriage. This text is about the Pharisees trying to dig up some mud that they can throw at Jesus based on what He will say about divorce. So, unless marriage is about divorce (and it’s not), this text is not primarily about marriage. However, that being said, Jesus does, in this text, give us God’s definitive word about marriage. With all the talk in our day and culture about marriage and the definition of marriage, this sermon will talk about God’s creation of marriage.
If you want to know what God has to say about marriage, you have to go where Jesus tells you to go. “From the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’” If you want to know what God’s intent for His creation of marriage is, you have to go back to the beginning of creation – back to before the Fall into sin.
This is marriage. God created Adam with a complete, self-sufficient cardiovascular system that could function on its own. Adam’s digestive system was created good and complete in itself to give Adam the nutrients and sustenance he needed. Adam’s skeletal and muscular systems were created good and complete in themselves to keep him upright and moving. But God’s good creation left Adam incomplete in one way – Adam could not reproduce by himself. God, in His great wisdom, intentionally left Adam unable to propagate on his own. God created Adam to need a helper. God brought all the animals to Adam so Adam could name them, but in all those beasts of the field, birds of the air, and fish of the sea, no suitable helper was fit.
So God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and God took one of Adam’s ribs from his side. God took that rib and used it to make a woman. God brings the woman to Adam, and she is like nothing else that Adam has seen. When Adam sees what God has done with his rib, he says, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.” And she was, literally. Adam said, “This one shall be called woman because she was taken out of man.”
Pause here for a brief Hebrew lesson: The Hebrew word for ‘man’ is אִישׁ (ish), and the Hebrew word that Adam gives to this new creation of God is אִשָּׁה (isha). So the difference between man and woman is, as one Hebrew scholar puts it, “Ahh.” When Adam sees his wife that is the idea that is going through his mind. “Ahh. This is the one for me.” And Adam receives his אִשָּׁה as God’s good gift to him.
In our Old Testament text (Gen. 2:18-25), we hear Moses write that this is God’s intent, God’s design for marriage. Marriage is created by God and defined by God. Marriage is not a man and a woman falling in love and choosing to work, live, and make children together. Marriage is something God does. As God united Adam and Eve together before the Fall, God still unites a man and a woman together to be husband and wife and those two become one flesh. One + one = one. The “one flesh” union of husband and wife is not the sexual act, rather the natural fruit of the sexual act, children. That is why what our Supreme Court ruled is contrary to God’s created order. So-called “gay marriage” is not, cannot be, and never will be marriage. One man + one man or one woman + one woman = two men or two women, but never marriage. And that’s all I’m going to say about that because that is all Scripture has to say about it.
As Jesus quotes and explains from our Old Testament text, “’Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” The important thing in marriage is not what a husband vows and promises to do for his wife nor what a wife vows and promises to do for her husband. What is of lasting importance is what God promises to both the husband and the wife: God is acting; God is uniting; God is joining. What God joins, let not man separate.
The Pharisees want to test Jesus; they want people to turn against Him. They are trying to trip Jesus up by bringing up the controversial topic of divorce. The Pharisees had two schools of thought on divorce. One group of Pharisees taught that divorce was wrong except in cases of adultery, and the other group taught that divorce could take place for very menial reasons – like the wife burning her husband’s toast or the man simply finding a prettier woman. Jesus knows their motives and asks them, “What did Moses command you?”
The Pharisees point to Deut. 24:1-4 where Moses does indeed write about what is required when a man divorces his wife. Moses does indeed say that a man needs to do the appropriate paperwork in order to divorce his wife, but this was an act of mercy for the divorced woman. In Moses’ day, a man could divorce his wife and kick her out of his tent, but unlike today, a woman could not divorce her husband. In Moses’ day, if a woman was divorced, she didn’t have an opportunity to provide for herself and would starve. And she couldn’t get married again because everyone else would see her as someone else’s wife. So Moses instructed the hard-hearted people, “If you’re going to throw your wife out, if you are going to make a mess, don’t make a mess for your wife’s life. The lest you can do is give her a certificate of divorce so that she could possibly marry again.”
And Jesus picks up on exactly that. Divorce happens only because a sin and hardness of heart. Jesus tells the Pharisees, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses wrote this.” In other words, Jesus is saying, “Divorce is always contrary to God’s design for marriage. Moses only wrote that to clean up the messes that your sinfulness makes. Here is God’s intent: what God has joined together, let man not separate.”
Jesus is very clear here. It doesn’t matter if the person you chose to marry was not a good choice. God joined you together. God made you and your spouse to be one flesh. So, husbands and wives, hear this: Your love for your spouse is not enough to sustain your marriage. Don’t look at your marriage as your choice. Rather, look at your marriage as something God has done. In your marriage, God joins you to your spouse to help you, to serve you, to do for you what you cannot do for yourself. Husbands, God places you into the unique office of husband. Wives, God places you into the unique office of wife. Adam did not make Eve his wife – he couldn’t have because she didn’t exist. Instead, Adam received Eve as God’s unique gift to him. And married couples, your spouse is God’s gift to you; your marriage is God’s gift to you. Again, your love for your spouse is not enough to sustain your marriage, but in God’s mercy, your marriage can sustain your love for each other.
Again, God’s math for marriage is this: one man + one woman = one flesh, and that means babies.
Now, to those of you who are not married yet, remember all of this. If you find a person you think you might want to marry, that is a good thing. But once you are married, remember that God has united you. You have not joined yourself to your spouse – God has. So, if you have differences in worldview or doctrine, that is going to cause problems because you and your spouse are both hardhearted and sinful. The devil, the world, and your own sinful flesh will attack your marriage because it is a work of God. The devil, the world, and your sinful flesh hate the works of God. Do not let anything attack your marriage.
And everyone, married couples and single people, know this: Jesus is the only one who will create, maintain, and build this unity. Jesus literally became bone of your bones and flesh of your flesh. Jesus became man. He united Himself to you so that you could be His Bride, a believer, a member of His Church. He takes on your flesh so that He can stand between you and God. He stands there to receive God’s wrath against your sin. When God punishes Jesus, it is the same as punishing you. When Jesus is obedient to God’s commands and lives a righteous life, it is the same as you obeying all of God’s commands and living a perfect, holy, righteous life.
Jesus comes here again to confirm to you that He has become one flesh with you. He gives His body, His flesh and unites Himself to you in Communion. Jesus gives His holy and precious blood to you to forgive you of your sin, to remove your hardheartedness. Because of this meal, your sin, all of your sin, is forgiven. If you want to strengthen your marriage, come to communion together as husband and wife where together you are joined to your Husband, Jesus Christ. Come to this altar where your sinfulness is replaced with the righteousness and holiness of your true Husband, Jesus Christ. Amen.
The peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Amen.

“Dr. Jesus, I know you are the One with the expertise, that’s why I came to You. But Isn’t there another treatment option? The poison of sin has spread so far. I think that even if You removed my hand, foot, and eye other parts of me would still be infected.”
And Jesus has replaced all your sinful, guilty parts with His pure and holy righteousness. He has given you His body and His blood. Jesus has given you His righteousness, holiness, and obedience. In your baptism, Jesus has brought you through the fire of God’s judgment against your sin all the way to the resurrection. In your baptism, you were united with Jesus’ death. Because of your baptism, you are united with Jesus’ death so that you could be united with Jesus’ resurrection. In your baptism, you died and rose just as Jesus died and rose. The death Jesus died, He died to sin, once for all – for you. The life Jesus now lives, He lives to God.
33 And they came to Capernaum. And when he was in the house he asked them, “What were you discussing on the way?” 34 But they kept silent, for on the way they had argued with one another about who was the greatest. 35 And he sat down and called the twelve. And he said to them, “If anyone would be first, he must be last of all and servant of all.” 36 And he took a child and put him in the midst of them, and taking him in his arms, he said to them, 37 “Whoever receives one such child in my name receives me, and whoever receives me, receives not me but him who sent me.”

At the foot of the mountain, the other nine disciples are dealing with a crisis. A man had brought his demon possessed son to them, but they were unable to cast that demon out. These disciples had previously been commissioned by Jesus with authority to cast out demons, and they did (Mk. 6:7-13, 30). However, this demon stumps the disciples, and the scribes are having a field day with this. If Jesus is so great, then why are His disciples so insignificant? If Jesus is so powerful, why are His disciples so powerless. If Jesus is so mighty, why are His disciples so weak? So they argue back and forth. Meanwhile this father stands around helpless as he listens to the disciples squabble with the scribes.
33 And taking him aside from the crowd privately, he put his fingers into his ears, and after spitting touched his tongue. 34 And looking up to heaven, he sighed and said to him, “Ephphatha,” that is, “Be opened.” 35 And his ears were opened, his tongue was released, and he spoke plainly. 36 And Jesus charged them to tell no one. But the more he charged them, the more zealously they proclaimed it. 37 And they were astonished beyond measure, saying, “He has done all things well. He even makes the deaf hear and the mute speak.”
As weird as it is, Jesus stuck His actual fingers into that man’s ears and mouth. But He comes here now to stick His actual body and blood into your mouth and your body. Jesus has been crucified as a ransom for your sins. He has bought you back by paying off the devil. And He is risen, alive, out of death for your justification. Jesus comes to you now in this holy Supper to remove your doubt that this is for you. Jesus comes now to drive away all your evil. He comes to you placing His Body into your body. He binds you to Himself. He clears out your ears and loosens your tongue so that you can confess Him clearly and be saved.
Nothing outside of you defiles you. Whatever goes into you goes out again. What you put into yourself passes through you and goes into the toilet. Yes, Jesus uses bathroom talk here. There is nothing you can put into yourself that makes you defiled. Nothing. So, why does God find fault with you, since nothing you have put into yourself makes you defiled? God finds fault with you and with me because we are sinners. You and I are sinners, but not because we do sinful things. You and I do sinful things because we are sinners. We are unclean because we are unclean – sinful from the time we are conceived.
God has pierced that evil, that sin, and all the problems of this world in Jesus’ hands and feet. God has drowned our evil in the blood of Jesus and buried it in His tomb (Rev. Fiene). When we see the mess we have made of this world, God points us to Jesus on the cross and says, “Look. That evil you have made, that defilement you have brought to the world, that uncleanness you have within you, look. I am here defeating it.”
nwashed. 3 (For the Pharisees and all the Jews do not eat unless they wash their hands properly, holding to the tradition of the elders, 4 and when they come from the marketplace, they do not eat unless they wash. And there are many other traditions that they observe, such as the washing of cups and pots and copper vessels and dining couches.) 5 And the Pharisees and the scribes asked him, “Why do your disciples not walk according to the tradition of the elders, but eat with defiled hands?” 6 And he said to them, “Well did Isaiah prophesy of you hypocrites, as it is written,
For the Pharisees and for us, because of our sin, God’s Law doesn’t always do what God designed it to do. God’s Law always condemns us. If you think you can earn God’s love by following your little rules, you are adding sin to sin. Romans 4:15 says, “The law brings wrath” (cf. Ro. 7:10-25 and Gal. 3:10). God’s Law always “kills, reviles, accuses, judges, and condemns everything that is not in Christ” (Luther). You are always in a dangerous place when you look at God’s Law and think to yourself, “Well, at least I’m keeping that one pretty well.” You may fool others and you may even fool yourself, but you aren’t fooling God. His Law always convicts. God’s Law is intended to cut you open like a sword, so that you watch in horror “as [your] own blood spills out of [you]” (Rev. D. Matyas).
Brothers and sisters, God has sent His own Son to be sin for you. Jesus took your sins and was run through with God’s sword of the Law. Jesus’ blood was spilt from His head, hands, feet, and side. God punished your sins upon Jesus as He died on the cross, and in return, God gives you the perfect, complete obedience of Christ. Because you are in Christ, because you have been united to Him in baptism, because you believe His words of forgiveness in the absolution, because you are joined to Jesus as you eat His body and drink His blood, God remembers your sins no more (Jer. 31:34). Your sins are separated from you as far as the east is from the west (Ps. 103:12). Your sins have been smashed into nothingness under God’s foot and cast into the depths of the sea (Mic. 7:19).
knowing in himself that his disciples were grumbling about this, said to them, “Do you take offense at this? 62 Then what if you were to see the Son of Man ascending to where he was before? 63 It is the Spirit who gives life; the flesh is no help at all. The words that I have spoken to you are spirit and life. 64 But there are some of you who do not believe.” (For Jesus knew from the beginning who those were who did not believe, and who it was who would betray him.) 65 And he said, “This is why I told you that no one can come to me unless it is granted him by the Father.”
“Will you promise not to – do anything to me, if I do come?” she asks. “I make no promise,” says the Lion. “Do you eat girls?” Jill asks. The Lion responds, “I have swallowed up girls and boys, women and men, kings and emperors, cities and realms.” Jill responds, “I daren’t come and drink.”
We all waste so much time and energy and worry about the things of this world that perish. All the food, clothes, house, home, and luxuries that God is providing – it all will perish. Do not work for the stuff that perishes, but for the food that endures to eternal life.
48 And he saw that they were making headway painfully, for the wind was against them. And about the fourth watch of the night he came to them, walking on the sea. He meant to pass by them, 49 but when they saw him walking on the sea they thought it was a ghost, and cried out, 50 for they all saw him and were terrified. But immediately he spoke to them and said, “Take heart; it is I. Do not be afraid.” 51 And he got into the boat with them, and the wind ceased. And they were utterly astounded, 52 for they did not understand about the loaves, but their hearts were hardened.
This is the same language that is used when God “passed before” Moses and revealed His glory (Ex. 33:18-34:9). Remember how God places Moses in the cleft of the rock and defined His name, “Yahweh, a God merciful and gracious. Slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness.” Well, here is Jesus was revealing His divine glory to the disciples. But seeing the divine in the midst of their troubles, knowing that God was present in the midst of their suffering, creates terror because their hearts were hardened and they did not understand the nature of Jesus even after the banquet earlier that day. Seeing Jesus’ reveal His divinity by walking on the water (see Job 9:8, Ps. 77:19, Is. 43:16) sends the disciples into a frenzied fear.
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